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It’s not all work and no play. Here’s how successful people manage to de-stress, work out, and carve out family time after a hectic day.

Watching TV or Observe Me?

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I don’t watch TV often Nothing inherently wrong with TV, but it’s often a mindless default and we consume more than we’d like. Eisenberg notes that she’s seeing more clients tossing out the TV: “They’ve just decided it’s a waste of time, or they’ll put strict rules about how much they—kids and grownups—can watch,” she says. Cutting back (only watching a specific show, no aimless channel surfing) frees you up for other goals you want to accomplish.

I usually chill myself down after my working day to review, reconnect and rediscover the things that I might miss out during my day. This technique is connecting the dot and transfer everything from observation to pattern and become my point of view about most of the things. Finally, it is to find the meaning also theories to make my observation valid, a consonant perspective.

Gym & Body Weight

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While working on a current project about the lives of successful women with families, Vanderkam observed that the majority of those she studied did at least some exercise. “Here we have people who are busier than the average American by a long shot, and are still finding the time to do it,” she says. “No one gets to escape the reality that exercise is necessary for health.”

Hitting gym more than twice a week could really bring lots of benefits, in terms of boosting our metabolism, strengthen the mentality and prolong our stamina.

Friendships & Family

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Vanderkam notes that successful people emphasize quality—not quantity—time with their families. “It sounds counterintuitive for a time-strapped family, but try having a goal of at least one enjoyable group activity so it’s not just a death march to dinner, then homework, then baths and bedtime,” she suggests. Even though it’s an “extra” event, it will encourage organization and brighten everyone’s mood.

Sometimes, it is a pleasure to have some friends around and talk with you. During the time of struggling with getting something done, a good conversation or spent quality time with family can help us a lot also.

“Social connections are one of the most enjoyable parts of life, but friends tend to get the short shrift when people get busy,” says Vanderkam. One strategy she sees busy people use: make a standing calendar date. If you have a group that you plan to meet with on the first Monday of every month, those meetings happen. If you have to schedule a date every single time, then it becomes harder.